5. It’s a lot of work but fun

Balancing both child rearing and researching is no doubt difficult. But even while repeatedly saying how hard it is, my children are precious and my research is fun, and I believe I am blessed to have both in my life. There have been plenty of times when I’ve felt sad, but I have never once gotten annoyed. In research and in raising a child, every day is a discovery. To cultivate my creativity, I cannot let go of either element.

The fact that there are many more tough times to come has not changed but I recently feel like I have some emotional leeway. At times when things are out of control and everything is a mess, I think, “there’s nothing left to do but laugh!” and I have a good laugh with my children.
　
Having the capacity for emotional leeway was also largely due to my husband switching to a position in Japan. Two hours on the bullet train isn’t exactly close but compared to New York, there was no time difference, and the distance was nothing. Almost every weekend, he would come to Nagoya, play with the kids, and prepare meals for the week. I myself was able to work hard and enjoy my weekdays because of the sense of security knowing that when the weekend rolled around, my husband would come to help.
　
Moreover, at Nagoya University and in Nagoya the atmosphere is such that women or men who are understanding will help other women in a bind. When in trouble, send an SOS, and when someone offers kindness, don’t be too modest and accept it. I believe this attitude is the key to surviving single parenting.